Networking is one of the most universally loathed words, but why? I get it — it sounds creepy, fake, and disingenuous. This does the notion a disservice though. Meeting others is one of the BEST ways to find a new job or opportunity. Especially as you progress in your career, the majority of jobs aren’t going to be posted (and when they are posted, it’s sometimes too late, but more on that at another time). Rather, someone is going to create something tailored to you OR you’re going to learn about the job through someone in your circle, often mutual friends.

You don’t need to go to a networking event and leave with a job. You don’t need to ask someone for something within the first five minutes of meeting them. Instead, you can trust in your inner confidence and realize that somebody might (and does!) want to talk to you because you are a nice and interesting person. Once the conversation starts, you’re likely to find things in common. It’s no different than making small talk in a waiting room or being introduced to a friend’s friend at a barbecue. Just be yourself and don’t stress.

Think about it — you would want to work with or recommend someone who is easy to be around AND is a hard worker and ambitious, not just that latter half. Show them you’re someone whom they would feel comfortable recommending or meeting again. Besides, networking is a win-win. If the conversation isn’t what you hoped, you at least got practice making conversation with someone new. If it goes well, you have another member of your growing professional network. Don’t forget to get contact info before leaving the conversation; you’ll want to stay in touch! Go to events, ask your friends and mentors for introductions, and don’t be afraid to reach out to people you find during your research.